Conflict & Resolution – City Bible Church Beirut

Conflict – Conflict occurs when two or more people pursue desires, choices, or goals that are— or appear to be—mutually exclusive (Scott).

Problem defined scripturally
- Not ultimately from poor communication techniques.
- James 4:1-4 – Your heart!
Solution defined scripturally
- James 4:5-10 – Your humility
  - Humble ourselves
    - Dependence (Acts 17).
    - Apart from Him nothing (Jn 15).
    - Not thinking less about yourself, but thinking about yourself less (Phil 2).
    - When you do think about yourself, think accurately in light of who God is and who you are.
- Gal 5:22-23 – From the indwelling Holy Spirit, produce the fruits of the Spirit
- Wisdom to know how to categorize the conflict
  - Preference
  - Conscience
  - Wisdom
  - Sin issues
- Emphasizing the difficult task of listening/understanding
  - Prov 18:2
    - Can you accurately articulate the other person’s point of view?
    - Practical tips for listening well
- Four rules of communication from Eph 4:25-32
  - Speaking the truth (4:25)
  - Quick resolution (4:26-27)
  - Attack the problem, not the person. Edify, love (4:29)
  - Malicious vs Gracious speech, active and not reactive (4:31-32)
- Bringing in help when necessary
  - Phil 4:2-3

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